想象一下，你和你最好的女朋友在一起，奇迹般地有很多有资格的男人在场。你是不显眼地浏览房间，但很失望地意识到它们似乎都不是你想要的…
潜意识里，你指的是你脑中编制的心理（或物理）清单。你知道，你理想的伴侣应具备的特质。虽然知道你在寻找什么是好的，但是你应该引用的列表可能是说明你的合作伙伴类型的列表。 需要 代替.
如何识别毒性关系（以及如何处理它们）
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女士们，我们已经习惯于寻找高大，英俊，聪明，经济稳健，自信的男人，让我们的家人幸福，朋友们也会感到沮丧。这就是我所发现的：不再仅仅关注迷人，高大和高智商的男性，而是开始寻找“高GHQ”男性，我的名词适用于具有良好丈夫品质的男性。有用.
梦想家伙名单
我找到了20世纪20年代的GHQ事情，在我考虑了太多迷人，高电压，令人心碎的类型之后 – 并且真的想到了我需要快乐的事情。我制作了一个两列列表，我认为这可以帮助我弄清楚我需要什么，而不是我想要的.
现在，我今天和所有客户一起做这件事。在第一次会议中，我们开始做一些有趣的梦想（有时是一点点的葡萄酒！）。我拿出一张分成两列的纸。我说，“雷切尔，详细描述你的梦想男人 – 没有被禁止。一切。”
她怀疑地看着我，想着，“哦，这太棒了！”然后，她微笑着，坐下来，喝了一口，然后快速地从列表上开火，我的笔几乎无法跟上。我在左栏写下“梦想家伙名单”：
- 高
- 智能
- 自发
- 金发
- 财务安全
- 滑稽
- 优等
Suzanne Somers与丈夫有50年的性关系
Nov.14.202305:57
谁让我们最开心
对于下一栏，我们完全切换齿轮。我告诉雷切尔想想她生命中让她最快乐的人。这些是我们的“电梯”人，因为他们把我们带来了。她坐了下来，审议了几分钟，然后说：“我有五个电梯人：我爸爸，戴安娜，索菲，马修和贝内特。”
在列表的右侧，我开始记下为什么让她如此开心 – 并提出以下主题：
- 无论如何，支持我的梦想
- 总是对我诚实，无论好坏
- 永远看到我的好处，并得到我
- 让我谦虚
- 鼓励我
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我告诉雷切尔，我的目标是帮助她开始约会（并最终安定下来）有一个目的的人：让她快乐的人。为了说明我的观点，我在梦想家伙专栏上写了“WANTS”字样，而在另一边写着“NEEDS”.
她并没有在所有错误的地方寻找爱情 – 她正在看左边的柱子而不是右边的柱子。在某些时候发生在我们所有人身上。我们追求越来越多的这些需求而不考虑真正让我们开心的事情。这通常不是他的自发性，外表或工作。我们追逐左侧，每次都缺乏.
随着我们会议的进展，我们将Rachel的“高GHQ”列表正式化 – 书面，打字和单行间隔。她找到了她特别高的GHQ男人，并在11月结婚！通过追逐右侧，她得到了她需要的一切。就像大多数幸福的已婚人士会告诉你的那样，我们的合作伙伴提供了与我们预期不同的一揽子计划 – 但我们不能更开心.
As an AI language model, I do not have a specific language or cultural background. However, I can provide a translation of the text into English:
Imagine you and your best girlfriend are together, miraculously surrounded by many eligible men. You browse the room inconspicuously, but are disappointed to realize that none of them seem to be what you want… Subconsciously, you are referring to the list of qualities that your ideal partner should possess. Although you know what you are looking for is good, the list you should refer to may be a list that describes the type of partner you are looking for.
How to identify toxic relationships (and how to deal with them) Jan.05.2018 04:31 Ladies, we are used to looking for tall, handsome, smart, financially stable, confident men to make our families happy and our friends feel frustrated. This is what I have found: no longer just focus on charming, tall and high IQ men, but start looking for “high GHQ” men, my noun applies to men with good husband qualities. Useful.
Dream guy list I found the GHQ thing in the 1920s, after considering too many charming, high-voltage, heartbreaking types – and really thought of something happy. I made a two-column list that I think can help me figure out what I need, not what I want. Now, Im doing this with all my clients today. In the first meeting, we started doing some fun dreams (sometimes a little wine!). I took out a piece of paper divided into two columns. I said, “Rachel, describe your dream man in detail – not prohibited. Everything.” She looked at me suspiciously, thinking, “Oh, this is great!” Then she smiled, sat down, took a sip, and quickly fired from the list, my pen could hardly keep up. I wrote “Dream Guy List” on the left column: high IQ, spontaneous, blond, financially secure, funny, superior.
Suzanne Somers has a 50-year sexual relationship with her husband Nov.14.2017 05:57 Who makes us happiest For the next column, we completely switched gears. I told Rachel to think about the people in her life who make her happiest. These are our “elevator” people because they bring us up. She sat down, deliberated for a few minutes, and then said, “I have five elevator people: my dad,